How (not!) to be a successful stay-at-home mom

Do you mind if I go off on a little rant for a minute?  Thanks.  It won’t be long, I promise.
As you know, I am a total newbie to Facebook.  So a little while ago, as I was trying to learn my way around Facebook, I entered Successful SAHM in the search bar.
Whoa.
OK, so yes, my shiny new page showed up.  So did a few other interesting SAHM/mom blogs, which I really enjoyed reading.
But.
A LOT of what showed up was oily, bordering-on-scammy, work-from-home opportunities.  A lot of them direct sales companies, MLMs, or pyramid schemes.
Now hold on a minute.
A few years ago, I did a thorough, in depth research project on a number of direct sales companies and MLM (multi-level marketing) companies. Without digging through every detail, let me just say this:
1) A lot of states have laws against MLMs.  It’s one of the only crimes where the victims become the perpetrators.  Some of the states where they are illegal spell it out that if you recruit others as reps, you are liable just as much as the parent company.  Some MLMs have minimum amounts you have to order each month, which really eats away any potential earnings!
2) There used to be a list, I think on the FBI’s website, that listed companies that were set up as MLMs.  I was not able to locate it for this post, but if you go to the Federal Trade Commission’s website and search ‘pyramid’ you’ll get plenty of reading material on it!
3)  Do the cold hard math.  Often, the companies advertise how much they have paid out to their associates, but forget to mention how many associates they have.  So if last month they sent checks out for 2 MILLION DOLLARS to their reps, they’ll be sure to tell you that.  But if they have 20,000 reps…that’s an average of $100 per rep, and you can bet that there’s a few top-earners and a lot less for the rest.
But the biggest problem?  The idea that to be a successful stay-at-home mom we need to be involved in some time-consuming sales thing. We don’t.
We want to be successful, and for me that means running my household well.  Keeping my little tribe eating healthy.  Making sure we all have clean clothes to wear.  Teaching good habits and instilling a good work ethic.
Some days we do better than others. Some days we find it deeply rewarding, and some days we feel like we’ve been hit by a train.
And yes, some days we wish we could contribute more to the financial well-being of the family.  Years ago I set myself to sell enough homemade things on Ebay to say that I had contributed one mortgage payment.
But getting involved in a snake-oil pyramid scheme is not my definition of success.